It’s happened before. There have been stories as to how first dates have gone real bad. It could be someone’s eating habits, a fart that comes out of nowhere or someone who is very overbearing. The horror stories are endless. This is a short list as to what not to do on a first date.
Be on time.
If you set a time for a date make sure you are on time. You can be ‘fashionably late’ meaning you get a fifteen to twenty minute leeway but anything over that is disrespectful. Keep in mind that you set the tone in the very beginning as to how you are and if your reputation is you can’t be on time then there is a high probability there won’t be a second date.
Turn your phone on vibrate and put it away.
There is nothing more annoying than a ringing phone during a date. Or while you are sitting there getting to know someone and you are texting or trying to find out what’s new on Twitter or Facebook. For a couple of hours put the phone on vibrate and don’t accept any calls. Those with children, it’s understaandable if you have to take an emergency phone call in regards to the children but if the babysitter calls every fifteen minutes telling you everything your children are doing then it become rude. If it is an emergency, then excuse yourself and go in the other direction and take the phone call.
Keep the conversation off of you.
The easiest thing to do is talk about yourself but when you spend the whole date talking about your past relationships, employment, family and where your dog likes to poop it can be excessive. The date is about getting to know EACH OTHER, not how someone cheated on you and you never forgave them for what they did. Or how much you enjoy (or hate) your job. Make sure the conversation is going back and forth so by the end of the night you’ll know if the person is worthy of a second date and you want to get to know them better.
Don’t drink too much.
This can’t be stressed enough. The last thing someone wants to do is carry you home because you drank too much. Or you can’t keep the conversation going because you’re slurring your words. Should you drink? Yes. But, so much that you can’t remember what happened the next day? No.
Don’t call the minute you end the date.
If your goal was to sleep with that person on the first date and it didn’t happen then it wasn’t supposed to happen. Don’t make that phone call right after the date is over with. If you make a call to let the date know you made it home okay and exchange pleasantries then that’s okay. But if their phone rings two minutes after you two go your separate ways then you are in ‘bug-a-boo’ status and it may cost you a second date.
Obviously there is so much more to add but these are the basics. What are your ‘don’ts’ for the first date?
